I believe it’s not a good idea to have a prenuptial agreement, and instead it is better to be 100% committed and make sure to make it work. Here’s why.
The debate surrounding pre-nuptial agreements has been a hot topic in recent years, with countless articles online advising couples to sign one before marriage. Many of these articles are authored by lawyers who profit from drafting such agreements or handling divorce cases. As a counterpoint, this essay aims to explain my decision not to have a prenup agreement and explore the implications of such a choice.
Firstly, having a prenup agreement signifies the existence of a plan B, which can undermine the commitment to plan A: the marriage itself. Commitment is the foundation of a strong marriage, and introducing an alternative option may weaken that foundation. By merely entertaining the idea of a prenup, couples risk diluting their dedication to one another.
Instead of relying on prenup agreements, couples should consider delaying marriage until they are certain of their commitment. Only when both partners are genuinely dedicated to making the relationship work can they foster a successful marriage. Rushing into marriage with a prenup as a safety net can lead to an unstable and insecure foundation for the relationship.
The presence of a prenup can create a subconscious escape route for couples, increasing the likelihood of divorce. Marriage is a unique partnership that should not be treated like an employment contract or business agreement. By signing a prenup, couples may inadvertently signal that they are not entirely committed to their union.
You are going to have difficulties in a marriage, life is full of challenges
When you have an argument in the future, or go through a difficulty, would you rather there was an easy way out? You both know there is an easy option to end it. Or would you rather there is no easy way out? That you have to keep pushing on, together, to overcome it. Many couples do regret getting divorced in the future.
The Reality of Love and Marriage: Popular culture often depicts love and marriage through a romanticized lens. However, the reality of these relationships is far more complex and demanding. I believe we should acknowledge that marriages require constant work, communication, and understanding. By doing so, they can build a strong foundation without the need for prenup agreements.
While pre-nuptial agreements may provide a sense of security for some couples, they can also weaken the commitment and trust that are essential for a successful marriage. By carefully considering the decision to marry, understanding the realities of love and marriage, and fully committing to the relationship, couples can create a stable foundation without the need for a prenup.
As a man, the best way to guard against divorce is to focus on continually improve and raise your value.
Love is not what you see in movies, and I don’t believe that marriage is what society seems to think it is.
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion.That is just being in love, which any fool can do.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.
Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.
– Louis de Bernieres
