I have been learning about how what you think about affects your reality. There are some great books about this topic and it has opened up a whole new world for me.
In some sense, our expectations become our reality. What you expect to see in certain situations, becomes the reality. What you focus on, directs further things. If you see the positive in situations, you are likely to see more positive things. If you see the negative, you will see more negative things.
It’s necessary to have a direction goal and desire, of what you want out of life. If you do not design this, then it means something else must be directing this. You can become like a coconut following the currents of the ocean. There is a saying that only a dead fish, follows the current.
But there is a balance between wanting it too much, hustle culture, and letting go, surrendering, because you can’t control it.
You need to feel and become one with it, so it is a part of you, without wanting.
There is a saying I heard from a friend, and that is that you can take a camel to the oasis, but the rest is up to allah.
When you want something too much, or try to control things too much, you end up pushing it away.
So you must become, what you want to be, so you can get it, and then it comes, by itself. Because getting something, is actually an illusion. Everything you have and need, is already inside you.
Emotions give feedback and are indicators of certain things. Joy, stress, excitement, anxiety, are all indicators to how you are thinking, or something that is causing this in the environment. So you can either follow it, for positive ones, or change the trigger in your environment, or your thinking about that thing.
So what is the resolution between – only a dead fish follows the current, and changing the world in your image? Vs the need to learn and listen to the environment?
I think the lesson is that it is similar to surfing and waves and rivers with currents.
You need to fully understand the flow of the river, but you can also navigate it, and navigate it, you must. You need to have a vision of what it is you want to do, and your outcome, and you can choose which rivers and currents and flows to follow, because there are an unlimited number to choose from.
Sometimes, the current is an illusion, and you can easily swim against it, if you try. It is also pointless to constantly swim against a current, if you are not making progress. If you are struggling against a current, then you can improve your skill, or change tactics, such as riding another, better, wave.
The more you try, the better you become, and that should be your primary goal – to become a better surfer, rather than reaching a specific point in the river, because that is only temporary, and there are always more to see.
